Friends

Recently a very good friend of mine asked me ... "what is a friend?".... it was around 12.30 am when i saw this message on my phone. I sat confused for a few minutes... and thought about asking him... 'why sucha question in the middle of the night?'. But instead a second thought came into my mind.. 'sahi me yaar, yeh dost  hota kya hai?'..(now don't think that I am a retard or some old hag who doesn't have friends ) . We all have friends in our lives, some have like a million friends .. some have a two or three, some are just time pass friends, some are like really close . It doesn't matter how many friends we have in our lives or how many times we go out with them or how popular we are/are not....what matters is have we ever thought about what a friend is? Is it that person who you prefer to shop with or is it that person who listens to you patiently while you weep and lament over petty things on the phone. Normally we "categorize" friends into different groups.. "shopping friend", "online friend" , "best friend", "good friend" and the occasional "just a friend".....but after all they turn out to be our "friend" no matter what activity we indulge in with them .. ahem.

Now comes the thought " jo dukh me saath de wohi saccha dost hai.. (friends who come to your help when you are in trouble are real friends *pardon my translation*) . True , those who help us in our bad times are our real friends, but we don't have bad times like all the time , do we? Only a few situations determine who is fake and who is real . But here we are talking about friends "in general". If you rewind your memory chances are that you spent some splendid times with those fakies too and you enjoyed it. Chances are that those fakies  taught you something valuable at some point in the past though not so directly (and the most obvious but valuable lesson they taught us was NOT TO TRUST THEM EVER!)  but they did play a significant role in your lives.

Friend real or fake, time pass or close, they are our friends after all. The only difference is that we spend a lot of time with one, less time with other, have completely forgotten some, but can never forget the others. So according to me a friend is someone who we spend time with, and learn something valuable from. (I know you expected a really big and meaningful line ).

This song is dedicated to all my friends whether far or close fake or real , dead or alive... please pause the little ipod thing on the right hand side of the page to listen to the song.

Enjoy...!

:| *random*

Sorry didn't write in a while. School's over. Sitting idle from the past 5 months. Nothing to do. Got no topics to write on (if you got any suggestions- please post it on the comments section below) . Aww life can be so boring sometimes. To cure my boredom I downloaded the movie "Julie and Julia" yesterday. It is such an AWESOME movie! I love it so much. Wish my life was like theirs. Cook whatever you want...whenever you want.... with no parents bickering "don't dirty the kitchen!"..or "Don't use up all the spices!". But isn't that supposed to be a challenge? Like if a recipe requires 10 cardamoms, and like you haven't got that much..what would you do? Quit and say ..."aww alright...let my mommy cook the dinner tonight"... or would you think "okay fine so what if i don't have 10 cardamoms...i'll figure out something ". Even though the taste wont be the same but experimenting is so much fun! To find the innumerable possibilities and the different dimensions of flavors...mm...heaven... Less resources is what tests your level of creativity.

here are a few random things I cooked all this while...

chocolate cake

random cake

idk what it is ..but it tasted really good

banana shake

some coffee thingy

home made lassi *heaven* 

and a hara masala chicken, biryani and some really random chicken curry (forgot to take their pics)

Reaching for heaven

Sorry didn't write in a while... was tangled with exams and everything with the new CCE pattern that came up..life has become really hectic. (I shouldn't say that life IS "hectic" because I dont know the actual meaning of hectic. I just go to school and come back compared to the people who work night shifts or even worse off financially or whatever I have a pretty much better life than them. So i dont have the right to say that life is hectic. But since am a kid and dont have any idea about the outside world I would say yeah my life's hell lot hectic!
Today am going to tell you a story, read on..

Nalco and Balco are best friends (dont confuse them with the aluminium factories). The eat together, have fun together , poop together and float together. Yes FLOAT together. Nalco and Balco are actually two fishes who were inseparable since they got out of their little fish egg shells. I don't know what their parents named  them before I bought them from a local aquarium. I just named them Nalco and Balco...because they....umm...look the same and...okay never mind.

"what do you want to be when you grow up?" asked Balco to Nalco.

"I  want to jump so high that i could touch the stars" replied Nalco.

"Huh?"

"I want to feel the light of the stars, the coolness of the dark sky, the tranquility...everything...I want to reach for the heavens. I want to jump up so high that I could peek into the heavens and plop right back into this bowl."

"Dude you have lost your mind" said Balco.

"Hmm...maybe...but I want to be a jumper" replied Nalco.

"And I am hungry, look here comes our food..!" said Balco goggling up at food .

" I am bored of this shit." said Nalco .

"Dude C'mon, this stuff's heaven! You dont get this in the river do you? And if you are not going to eat this, good for me, am going to eat this all up! "

"And then you'll burst and then either you'll be flushed down the toilet or fed to the birds and cats. Fine am eating."

Nalco used to practice his jumping skills everyday. Jumping up, breathing in the direct oxygen mixed with pollution and plopping back into the water, panting.

"You are going to get yourself killed" said Balco making a straight face.

One night Nalco woke up Balco and said "I can feel it, today is the day . You my friend are going to see what no one will ever see ! "

"Stop irritating me in the middle of the night, it makes me hungry. Wait- dont tell me you are going to shave off your hair or scales...or ugghh...fine WHAT IS IT?"

"Just watch....I am reaching up for the heavens tonight. I'll plop back into the water and tell you what it's like. If  I am lucky I'll meet granny "

Saying this Nalco jumped like never before. He used all his power and pushed himself upwards, breathed in the air....breathed in the freedom...........and reached for the heaven

And he did reach the heavens- he died. Balco wouldnt eat. He would just float around lonely and aimless...in the still water waiting for his friend to plop back into the water.











My fish Nalco, actually did die. :(

Lonesome

The reflection you see
Is the same as everyone sees
But not the way I do.
Look carefully
and you "might" see
The little creak of loneliness
like I do.

You might find her scary
You might assume she is heartless
You might have heard that she is cold and grey
But look carefully
She "might" still have a yellow ray
Somewhere hidden inside her.

You might think and rant
"Oh she is such an ice
that she might not even react.
Go see for yourself,
hit,swear do whatever you want
then look at her act"
True she wont even react
But the hurt you caused
Someday or the other,if not her
Someone will make you pay for that.

Every action she does
You humor them
You think she is crazy,out of this world
A total freak and dork
You think she doesn't realize
What you do to her
But my friends
She is much wiser than you thought .

A different approach she had
A different sway she carried
Not staggering, head strong she walked
And people mocked her on and on

I have seen her
I have known her
And she will always be special to me
She is dead now,
But I pity those who mocked her
Because you'll face worse...even more worse
It is not a curse,fate or blame
But the truth which will remain undeniable and undefined
For years and years to come
For whoever mocked a lonesome.

=)

mom 2 me- after 10 years u'll watch this report, and you and me both will laugh at it...because then you'll be a far more better and successful person and I know you can do it...its just that you're not able to make out what to do ...but dont worry..you'll know... when the time comes. Right now just concentrate on your present. 4get what others say....they are stupid anyways. *keep your head on your mums lap....mum stroking your hair.....and everything seems clearer...and right...*

This too shall pass

Today morning when I opened the newspaper I found this column about how people suffer from different problems. Physical, mental. Someone suffering from a broken relationship, someone with financial problems...etc etc. All this while I thought that the problems from which I suffer like bad grades, fights with friends etc are the gravest problems of all. But looking at the dilemma of other people my silly problems seem nothing.

So as this blog is all about teenagers we will not talk about the BIG WORLDLY PROBLEMS. We'll talk about the teeny weeny tiny problems of teenagers which they interpret to be veryyy BIG! (Well actually they are big if you are a teenager)

So I'll just say one thing "This too shall pass". No lectures....no big  saint like advices...nothing. Just a simple sentence. Whenever you are in a problem whatever it may be break up,falling grades, stupid friends, a video game in which you lose every time whatever...just take a deep breath...exhale chill out and think in your head..."It's not that it will go on forever. This too shall pass". Like after every cold, bone chilling winter...there is a beautiful and warm spring....after every cold dark night there is a bright sunny day...your grey days shall also pass. Even if there ain't a sunny day after a dark  night and its raining....think about it...do u think its going to rain all year long..? No. Even if it does (which is actually not possible) adjust with it....and play in the mud puddles.

So I end my post here. Bye take care ,have a wonderful week ahead. Keep smiling. :)

Real Happiness

Earlier I thought that happiness relies only in materialistic things. Only if I could hang out with my friends at some mall....only then I could be happy. Only if I had this dress to buy and show off only then I could be happy. Only if I  get more pocket money then I could be happy. Only if i had this only if i had that only if i could go there do this meet them etc etc. It was only all about the things I wanted. It was all about the things I dreamt of having. It was all about 'I'. "I want you to listen to me" , " I want you to do as I say".  All the time it was I.

I remember the times when I used to feel so sad when I didn't posses the things which the children of my age possessed. Like for example an internet connection. I was in I guess 7th standard when I cried my eyes out in front of my dad. I wanted an internet connection because all my friends were on orkut and talked about it the whole day and I felt so left out . I stopped talking to dad and when i talked I used to talk through written notes.Dad explained to me that maybe the other kids had this facility of internet. You'll also have but it'll be the day when I think it's appropriate for your age. And so in my 8th standard I got my internet connection. I didn't even have to beg dad for it. He gave it on his own. ( Later I found Orkut so senseless that I deleted all of my accounts.)

Making a boyfriend/girlfriend at the age of 12 or 13 may seem like that most important thing in the life. We are young and we don't understand that all is not play. At that age we think that if only we had a boyfriend/girlfriend we would be called "cool" and it's so much fun that people tease you with their name. What we don't understand that all this relationship thing require a lot of commitment. We cant just walk in whenever we want to and walk out whenever we wish to. We should get into a relationship only when we think that we are completely ready for it and thats what we don't understand at that age.

You must be thinking that all this must be so embarrassing to confess and stuff. But am not a bit ashamed of confessing all this. It's not just me....it happed with a heck lot of people of my age when they were in 6th or 7th. The only difference is that am confessing it and they are reading it and smiling thinking about the times they had been silly. And I also know that if my juniors read this they wont stop doing the things they are doing. Its the human nature. Cant do anything about it. But one day they will realize like I did. And I wont say that I have grown up and know everything about life and stay away from all this. Am still a kid and commit mistakes,later cry for it, forget about it, commit the same mistake again, think about my previous mistake, relate it with my  current mistake and then realize where the hell did I go wrong. Its like maths. Today we might not be understanding a question. Screwed up the same question in the first and second test. But when the same question is asked a year later we have a better understanding about it and we don't get the question wrong.

Anyways enough about the bad and lecture wala stuff. Lets talk about the topic "Real Happiness" about which the post is about. I kind of realized when I came to Pune. (It's not that everyone has to come to Pune to find out about real happiness) Even though I hated the city at first. But now everything is fine. Happiness is now not about who has  the bigger horse. Maybe it's because I realised what real happiness is....maybe its because of the people. I dont know. But now I dont return home all gloomy as i used to. (Except for the days when I get my marks) Mum now says that I return home looking more lively than in the mornings. What's the secret behind it? Well I just have started enjoying life more. Now I crack silly jokes....laugh all I want and dont care about what people will say if I behave all crazy. If I like it I do it. Eating tiffins in the middle of the class seemed like a crime to me before but now it's fun. It's even more fun when friends say "Yaar tera tiffin matlab mera tiffin. baat ek hi hai." The realisation that you are not the one who hasnt done the homework. Earlier it felt like the end of the world but now its fun. If I my friend hasnt completed the homework and if I have done it the way they say " Yaar aaj mat submit kar...kal de dena please!" and the fact that I immediately agree to it and later when the teacher is gone we laugh like crazy about it is happiness. Earlier sitting online, watching TV or playing computer games or spending money at malls was counted as fun. But now its going on long walks carrying some vada pav and chips and cracking stupid jokes all the way and laughing like crazy on the roads and people staring at you and looking at their weird looks laughing some more is happiness. Before giving a exam a look at your best friend and they say "Yaar fati padi hai" and you know that you are not alone and later laughing about it is happiness. When you are all gloomy and you get messages like " Lilly Oh meri pyari lilly, dont be silly. Bring you'r billi and we will play billi billi" and instantly you laugh is happiness.If there is and exam and the fact that someone is there with you who hasnt stuidied all the chapters is happiness . And also the fact that someone will be there even if it's 3am to explain you the chapter is happiness. If i go on about it I can write a whole book on my experiences of happiness.

All I want to say is....its okay to be kiddish and immature. Be carefree. Laugh when you want to and don't care about what people will think coz people are just overly mature creatures who don't have their own business to mind and ruin others happiness. Don't let that happen to you. If you have such people in your life kick them out. They don't deserve to be in your life. Try to listen to you'r parents advice always. Whatever they do or say is for your best (at times you might think they dont understand you but actually they do). Teachers.....well....don't mind if they scold you. Laugh it off and do the homework next time so that they don't get an excuse to scold you. Or better....don't ever do the homework. (but i cant guarantee if that wont get you into trouble and even if you get into trouble....just chill and curse the person who wrote this post and advised you to laugh all the time and not do the homework). And yea relationships.....yaar wo toh aate jate rahenge...why to cry about it? Even if you feel like crying tell your best friend (theres nothing shameful about telling your best friend about it) and am sure they will instantly cheer you up.And if you do find the one for you dont ever let go whatever happens. Don't hold grudges with anyone.....or else later you'll repent that how much time you wasted holding grudges. And EAT! It's not your age to get a size zero!

So with this I end my post here. Take Care. And don't forget to laugh!